How do you let go?

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“Let go,” they say. 

Everyone says it. If you want to be whole, if you want to be free, if you want to be healed, let go. 

Easier said than done, don’t you think? The other day, someone posted this question on Facebook: “How do you let go?”

I was in the middle of something else and didn’t comment. When I got back to Facebook the post was gone, but it’s a question I think all of us have faced at one time or another. Most of us face it time after time after time, because there are so many levels to letting go. 

Personally, I recently hit another of those levels. I’m being guided to let go of everything and everyone: parents, children, ex, past lovers, potential lovers, people who have annoyed me, people I have annoyed, expectations, outcomes.

Not easy. Not easy at all. In fact there were a few in there that had me at a loss. 

“How do I let go of THIS?”  I asked my guides. 

And by grace, I was given a solution. 

“Be grateful,” they said. They explained that attachments of any kind—whether it’s to people we love or people we’d rather not have to deal with—ultimately come from fear of loss. Either fear that something of ours will be taken away, or fear that we are somehow not whole without that person or situation. 

In truth, all people and situations that come into our lives do so to help us learn, grow, and come back into ourselves. 

Igunga Simply presencing each one with deep gratitude for the gifts and lessons they have brought helps to heal the belief in separation behind the attachment—whether it be perceived as love or as animosity—so that one can truly let go, heal, and be free. 

Is it easy? No. But once they explained that letting go is not the same as abandonment, it became much easier. 

I understand now that when I acknowledge and thank a person for his or her gifts and lessons, and release them to Spirit, if they have no more gifts and lessons to bring, they will drop away and it will be painless. And if they do have more to bring, maintaining a spirit of gratitude makes everything go smoother. 

Also, they tell me that true soul mates bring limitless gifts, and open the door to unlimited gratitude, love, and abundance. 

Blessings and deep peace, 


7 Rules for Rocky Relationships

I’ve been thinking a lot about relationships lately. Because after all, it’s our connections, our relationships with the people and animals and everything else around us, that make life worth while, wouldn’t you agree?

can i buy Pregabalin over the counter in spain But relationships aren’t always easy. And no wonder, because they are the vehicle through which we learn and grow. And growing can be painful, sometimes.

If you are a sensitive, empathic person, one of the biggest trip-ups of being in a relationship is that it’s really easy to get lost in it. You can get so identified and influenced by the other person and their emotions that it can be difficult to distinguish between your own feelings and needs and those of the other person.

To complicate things, a relationship is more than the sum of its parts. In other words, when you have a relationship between two people, in addition to Me and You, there is also an energetic entity that is the Relationship between the two of us.

Sometimes, your energies will be so vibrationally resonant that just being near the other person is energizing and healing.

And sometimes—even if you love each other—your individual energies may not mesh too well. When that happens, neither of you is likely to thrive.

If both you and the other person are relatively healthy, this may not be too bad. But if one or the other or both of you are unbalanced in any way, watch out. Because it WILL affect all aspects of your being. And it can become quite the ordeal.

That is why emotional self discipline and psychic protection are so important. Because if you’re not in control of your own mind, your own emotions, you can unconsciously wreak havoc on others. And they can wreak havoc on you. Even if you love each other.

If you are in a relationship that doesn’t feel quite right at some level, it’s critical to learn to distinguish between what’s yours and what’s theirs. Energetic cord cutting is a must; I highly suggest calling on Archangel Michael for help with this. (Or book a session with me* or another energy worker you trust to help you.)

But since the emotions that come up in a relationship situation can be so overpowering, it’s also helpful to be intellectually aware of what a healthy relationship actually looks like (or doesn’t).

Here are a few things to consider if you happen to be in a rocky relationship:

1. Spirit, Self, Others. Tune in first to higher guidance, then to your own heart, then to others’ emotions, and act accordingly. Doing it out of order is likely to throw you off track.

2. Pathos is a piss-poor substitute for passion. Learn to tell the difference.

3. A relationship that (intentionally or otherwise) results in isolation is not reflective of the Light.

4. Healthy relationships make your heart sing—a phenomenon that can’t be forced through guilt or wishful thinking.

5. Compromising one’s own integrity in a relationship is one of the most insidious forms of violence, harming not just self but everyone involved (and ultimately all of life.)

6. The body doesn’t lie. Check in with your physical reactions towards the other person – they are often more truthful than what your mind wants you to believe. (One caveat though – be aware that sexual attraction can mask all sorts of red flags. Stay in control.)

7. When a partnership is no longer a vehicle for growth, it’s acceptable and appropriate to dissolve it and allow all parties to move on to new opportunities and relationships more supportive of their highest potential. No blame, no guilt.

Finally, it can help to keep in mind that as healing happens within, so it reflects without. Whether your inner changes result in greatly improved and more loving relationships (as often happens), or you end up moving on, be assured that any balancing and strengthening you do for your inner self WILL affect your relationships, and as long as you do it in the spirit of Love, it WILL be for the highest good.



Feeling stuck in a relationship is no fun. (In fact it sucks.) Spirit animals can be super helpful allies in this department, because animals call it like it is. The awareness they bring can really help in untangling those binding relationship cords so you can finally experience healing and/or release in your relationships.

*This week only (through March 21, 2017), you can book a Spirit Animal reading and/or healing session at 14% off (since today is March 14th!) Just use coupon code lucky14 when you book your session here.

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