7 Rules for Rocky Relationships

I’ve been thinking a lot about relationships lately. Because after all, it’s our connections, our relationships with the people and animals and everything else around us, that make life worth while, wouldn’t you agree?

But relationships aren’t always easy. And no wonder, because they are the vehicle through which we learn and grow. And growing can be painful, sometimes.

If you are a sensitive, empathic person, one of the biggest trip-ups of being in a relationship is that it’s really easy to get lost in it. You can get so identified and influenced by the other person and their emotions that it can be difficult to distinguish between your own feelings and needs and those of the other person.

To complicate things, a relationship is more than the sum of its parts. In other words, when you have a relationship between two people, in addition to Me and You, there is also an energetic entity that is the Relationship between the two of us.

Sometimes, your energies will be so vibrationally resonant that just being near the other person is energizing and healing.

And sometimes—even if you love each other—your individual energies may not mesh too well. When that happens, neither of you is likely to thrive.

If both you and the other person are relatively healthy, this may not be too bad. But if one or the other or both of you are unbalanced in any way, watch out. Because it WILL affect all aspects of your being. And it can become quite the ordeal.

That is why emotional self discipline and psychic protection are so important. Because if you’re not in control of your own mind, your own emotions, you can unconsciously wreak havoc on others. And they can wreak havoc on you. Even if you love each other.

If you are in a relationship that doesn’t feel quite right at some level, it’s critical to learn to distinguish between what’s yours and what’s theirs. Energetic cord cutting is a must; I highly suggest calling on Archangel Michael for help with this. (Or book a session with me* or another energy worker you trust to help you.)

But since the emotions that come up in a relationship situation can be so overpowering, it’s also helpful to be intellectually aware of what a healthy relationship actually looks like (or doesn’t).

Here are a few things to consider if you happen to be in a rocky relationship:

1. Spirit, Self, Others. Tune in first to higher guidance, then to your own heart, then to others’ emotions, and act accordingly. Doing it out of order is likely to throw you off track.

2. Pathos is a piss-poor substitute for passion. Learn to tell the difference.

3. A relationship that (intentionally or otherwise) results in isolation is not reflective of the Light.

4. Healthy relationships make your heart sing—a phenomenon that can’t be forced through guilt or wishful thinking.

5. Compromising one’s own integrity in a relationship is one of the most insidious forms of violence, harming not just self but everyone involved (and ultimately all of life.)

6. The body doesn’t lie. Check in with your physical reactions towards the other person – they are often more truthful than what your mind wants you to believe. (One caveat though – be aware that sexual attraction can mask all sorts of red flags. Stay in control.)

7. When a partnership is no longer a vehicle for growth, it’s acceptable and appropriate to dissolve it and allow all parties to move on to new opportunities and relationships more supportive of their highest potential. No blame, no guilt.

Finally, it can help to keep in mind that as healing happens within, so it reflects without. Whether your inner changes result in greatly improved and more loving relationships (as often happens), or you end up moving on, be assured that any balancing and strengthening you do for your inner self WILL affect your relationships, and as long as you do it in the spirit of Love, it WILL be for the highest good.

 

 

Feeling stuck in a relationship is no fun. (In fact it sucks.) Spirit animals can be super helpful allies in this department, because animals call it like it is. The awareness they bring can really help in untangling those binding relationship cords so you can finally experience healing and/or release in your relationships.

*This week only (through March 21, 2017), you can book a Spirit Animal reading and/or healing session at 14% off (since today is March 14th!) Just use coupon code lucky14 when you book your session here.

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When you never tell girls they can’t, part 2

Medicine bear drawingThe weekend before last I was in Milwaukee for a holistic fair. While there I had the pleasure to meet Dennis (Rocky) King, a medicine healer from the Bear Clan of the Oneida nation.

I’ve had a lot of bears come into my life lately – in dreams, in my art, and, just a few weeks ago, a bear crossed twice in front of me while visiting my aunt’s cabin near Manistique, MI. So naturally, we got to talking.

By the end of the day, we had arranged a trade. He gave me an awesome Bear Medicine healing, and I am working on a piece of art for him, featuring Medicine Bears. (The sketch above is a preparation for the final piece, which will be in watercolor.)

So, anyway, while we were talking he told me a story about two little girls.

Rocky worked for several years as a teacher’s aide on the reservation. He had a special relationship with the kids because he would listen to them and take them seriously. But one time two little second grade girls claimed something he just couldn’t bring himself to believe.

“Rocky, we can lift you up!” they said.

You have to know Rocky. He is literally a bear of a man. Tall, and big. He has to weigh at least 250 pounds. (Here is his picture, modeling for the bear painting:)

Native American Healer“No way,” he said. “You can’t lift me up.”

“Yes, we can!” they insisted. So finally he gave in and let them try.

“They each grabbed me around one of my knees,” he told me. “I grounded myself and made myself really heavy, but they just looked at each other and said ‘one, two, three!’ and on three they lifted me straight up! I couldn’t believe it! What those two little Indian girls could do.”

He said he told one of the teachers later about it and she just looked at him and said, “Rocky, you’re so funny. Tell me another one.” But when he told his medicine man mentor, the man looked serious and said, “Well, of course. Children can do amazing things, before anyone tells them they can’t.”

When Jesus said, “become like a little child,” perhaps this is part of what he meant.

Believe in yourself. You are more powerful than you know.

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Healing starts here.

"Sun Worshippers" floral painting of echinacea
“Sun Worshippers,” (echinacea.) Watercolor on paper, 8×11″. This painting is available for sale – reply below for details.

 

“Loving myself heals my life. Treating myself firmly but gently nourishes my mind, body and soul!”

If you want to change your life, start first with loving yourself. Your own loving attitude is like the warm rays of the sun that allow your soul to grow.

Sometimes it’s hard to feel loving towards ourselves, especially when we let ourselves down. It can help to think of yourself as a very small child, just learning how the world works.

If a very young child falls on her face, do you beat up on her for her mistake?

Of course not! You comfort her and set her back on the ground to try again. And you trust that she will learn to walk and then to run. Sometimes the act of falling is just what she needs to help her learn!

Stop beating up on yourself. If you fall down, brush yourself off, give yourself a hug, and set yourself down again in the right direction to take the next step towards the Light.

You’ll be amazed at how you start to bloom!

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Are angels real?

healing angel painting
“Healing angel,” pastel, channeled angel painting by Christie Michelsen

I used to think angels were just romantic notions. Until I started doing intuitive energy work, and started sensing them in people’s auras. (It actually took me by surprise at first!)

Do they really look like beautiful humans with halos? Well, I think they are really simply pure, loving energy. But it’s easier for many people to relate to them when they appear in human form. That’s probably why they have come through that way to me and to many other artists throughout history.

I have a technique for connecting with spiritual energies that I thought for years was just doodling. I just open my mind to the universe and allow what wants to come through to appear on the paper. Often it’s an angel.

Last spring I caught that stomach flu that was going around. Needless to say I felt miserable! One day I just had to stay in bed. But at one point I sat up and invited a drawing to come in, and this is what came through. A healing angel!

Yes, it helped me feel better. 🙂

When you are feeling sick, or depressed, or otherwise unwell, I want you to know that you do have angels surrounding you.

They do exist. They are there for you, wherever you are and whatever may be happening to you. All you have to do is call on them. They will help you on some level, I guarantee it!

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New painting – Sun Panther

Watercolor painting "Sun Panther" All life is energy. We are one with universal energy. The spinning of the Earth, the turning and burning of the Sun, the wind in the trees, the slinking panther in the grass, and the grass, how it grows…All one. Breathe, and become transparent to it, for you, too, encompass it all…

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